We all do it.
We think that we 'don't know much', or that we only know 'what everyone else knows'. This is the blight of 'common sense' :)
Sometimes it takes a new situation, a meeting in a new context, or simply being asked the right questions, for you to realise what you DO know and that it IS of value and that YOUR common sense isn't everyone else's.
This happens to me all the time. I think 'everyone knows that' and worry that I don't have anything more/of value to add, and yet when I say what I think people pay attention as they've not heard it before. Sometimes it's not 'new' information, but it's the way you share it that's new. Sometimes it is new information. Sometimes it's your considered opinion or experiences or stories that make the difference. It doesn't matter whatever it is–it's that you don't underestimate that's important.
Don't ever not 'say what you see' as you are most likely seeing what other people are not. Think about it this way: if they were seeing what you see, wouldn't they be doing it? This is your Thing! You see the world in a different way to other people based on what you know, what you filter, what you have experienced, and how you look at the problem they have. It's YOUR common sense, not 'universal' common sense.
On an almost daily basis I share something that I have personally filed under 'common sense' that ends up being a revelation to someone else. And it's not because I have some special powers or a brain the size of a super computer–it's just that I've learnt that my 'reality' is different to everyone else's and I'll share what I see. You need to do this too. Stop assuming that because something is common sense to you that everyone else sees it too (and are perhaps just choosing not to do it). It's very often the situation that other people don't see 'things' the way you do and won't see them differently until you point it out. So pipe up! We need your take on 'Things'.
Don't underestimate what you already know.
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Just the reminder I needed today! One of my excuses has always been that I’m not offering new information, and this has kept me stuck in the hamster wheel of learning (ie getting qualifications!) to prove how good I was and in the hope of finding my Thing! But this was just one more excuse to add to the block of fear around being seen/heard!
Now, after doing a lot of research into others in my field, and working with a wonderful soul coach,I’ve realised that not only are lots of coaches not qualified in anything (!!) but that I am unique in the place where I come from and my target clients. I guess I have finally found my Thing!! It was there all along! So watch out world, here I come!!!
lots of love xx
It’s a great realisation isn’t it. It’s ‘your way’ that counts :)