Fringes (or 'bangs' as my lovely across the pond friends call them!)—yes, you can cut your own fringe if you're a good hairdresser, I am sure, but the back of your head? Even if you're an award-winning hair artist I am sure is pretty damned impossible to do the back of your own head well. Which is annoying, as you're obviously brilliant—you just can't reach. And we all have that problem (not necessarily with hair) but with being able to see our own 'Thing' and do what we do for others to ourselves...
Sometimes we think that because we can do a good job on others we can do it for ourselves. But that's when we forget 2 things:
- It's on the end of our nose which, of course, we look straight past so don't actually SEE it
- Cobbler's children: we're SO busy doing our Thing for other people that we completely forget or neglect to do it for ourselves...
Guilty on both charges, m'lud.
I VERY often find myself working with a lovely Business Celebrity and thinking "Hmm, that's a good idea—I should do my version of that". I also find myself hearing my coach or mentor tell me to do something that I had told one of MY clients to do not the week before (man, that's SO annoying when it happens!). But I've learned to accept it as 'how life is' and take it on the chin. I cannot cut the back of my own hair so I have to make sure I go to a fab hairdresser who can.
Now the point here is I can't cut the back of my own hair, which is what MY example was how I need to have people who help/coach/mentor me to do the very same Thing I do for other people... i.e. get clear on their Thing and how to sell it. And you'll absolutely have your version of this too. And that's totally fine! We are so much better giving our knowledge and know-how and support to other people than giving it to ourselves. I mean, if I want to get fit I know 'all I have to do' is go to the gym, eat well, keep at it. But do I do that? Of course I don't. I wait 'til it's annoying me enough that I call a PT and get them to MAKE me do exercise, and do it properly too (more importantly). The added bonus here of course is that you can then employ an expert who does know more than you. You find someone who's Thing it is to help you.
So the moral of this story?
Don't worry that you can't do your own Thing on yourself as brilliantly as you can for other people—it's hard to do.
Get someone whose Thing it is to help you do yours better.
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