I have been doing a lot of un-learning recently. Or, to put it another way, learning to do things NOT the way I had been doing them (for a long time!). Which is the best learning I think. Although hard...very hard!
Sometimes we consciously develop habits, ways of working and actions that are just 'the way we do things'. Some of these habits are good (in fact sometimes they are our 'Thing'), in other cases though, we can do things much better.
Then there's the unconscious habits, ways of working and actions - which again can be brilliant - they can be our unconscious competence - again they can be our 'Thing'. On the other hand they can be 'bad' habits that aren't serving us or our business success!
I am not going to go all 'coach-y' on you now and talk about blocks and limiting beliefs (although you of course need to sort these out, and my advice is hypnosis - but that's another post I need to write!). Anyway...
What I wanted to write about today is un-learning. The picking apart of what you do now and making it better. And I wanted to talk about how uncomfortable that is!
Yesterday I spent an entire day 'un-learning' how to stand, how to speak, how to move and how to breathe. Pretty much all the things I thought I had nailed :) I was un-learning everything I thought I knew how to do to make great business videos (thanks James). And it felt weird. In fact it was difficult, and really uncomfortable... to start with... then after a while I was doing things the 'new' way unconsciously (not all of them at once I'll be honest! but some of the new 'habits' had crept in even in the space of a day). It was interesting to do and still has me thinking (so much so I'm writing this obviously!).
And it's not the only thing I've un-learned recently. I've un-learned lots about how to present, how to run my business, how to exercise, how to eat, how to 'be', and how to manage my energy. And all of them started off as being uncomfortable (and yes I was pretty resistant to some of them!) but I knew I had to do them. I knew what I was un-learning was making space for me to learn new and better habits, ways of working and 'Things'. And I learned them all from other people who guided me as they were doing their 'Thing' (and you know how important that is to me!).
So I know exactly what it's like when I ask my clients to do something they aren't used to doing. I know what it means to 'un-learn' (even something you've been doing ALL your life). And yes I know it's hard. But I also absolutely know it's worth it.
So let me know, what are you going to make space for to do differently? What are you going to 'un-learn'?
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