As any good coach will tell you (not that I’m a coach, but I’ve worked with plenty!) YOU have all the answers. Now the trick is ‘finding them’ inside you, of course, and that’s what a good coach can help you do. But knowing that you have them helps you ‘get’ that you don’t need to go on a quest or search for holy grail answers. I would wager that in every situation you face (in life, business, wherever) you ‘instantly’ know what action you WANT to take (that gut reaction thing), but you may then ‘think about’ it waaaaaaaay too much perhaps to find an easier way, or a harder way (hey, I do this!), a more ‘logical’ way, etc. I’m a big one for over-thinking given half the chance, but I am seeing more and more when I just ‘do what I want’, and by that I mean the ‘instant’ response I have... then it works out just fine–and perfect for me.
And that’s a key point too–there is no ‘one plan’ you must stick to or get right–there is instead the ‘right plan for you’ which is perfect for your life, business, whatever because it fits with your goals, your values, your take on things.
So this often explains why when you go ‘looking for’ the perfect answer you don’t find it–or you think you find it but typically what you really find is someone else’s perfect answer. Just because a process or a system or a way of doing business works brilliantly for someone else, don’t assume it will for you, simply because you’re not that person!
I’ve fallen for this SO many times, I can’t tell you–and it’s nothing to do with who I’ve worked with and what ‘plan’ I’ve followed (as in most instances they have been fab people with brilliant plans). It’s just they weren’t MY plan. It’s a bit like how some clothes and styles look good on some people and awful on others (I can’t do those ‘boyfriend’ jeans without looking like I literally don’t know how to buy ‘my size’, but then put skinny jeans on other people and it’s the wrong fit, too).
This is why when I help people with their Thing–and how you might help people too–it’s a great idea to have a ‘framework’ and ‘process’ you work through, one that allows for every result to be different. I definitely don’t have a one-size-fits-all ‘result’ that I hand out when I work with people on finding their Thing and packaging it up to sell. I do go through a ‘process’ to get those ideas and answers defined, but they are different every single time... a few tweaks here, or a totally different approach there. Because everyone I work with is completely different, OF COURSE their Thing will be too.
Work out what you know can be applied to everyone to get the result of your Thing but don’t get stuck on making it ‘exactly the same’ as how you did it, or do it. It will most likely follow a ‘pattern’ but expect different art each time.
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