You are the star in your life and business. It's YOUR Thing that people need, and YOU need to do it only the way you do it.
I've certainly put on an act in the past to do work and I've had to wear uniforms (there have been some polyester fashion crimes committed, I can tell you now!). And at the time I was OK with this—it's who I thought I had to be to do my job (and it was also in the employee handbook of what had to be worn). So of course I did what I had to do to get the job done and get paid.
But it's been a while since my waitressing days and now I get to choose. And so do you. You get to choose to be you.
And sometimes that's actually harder to do than following a rule book or sticking to a dress code. Because who are you? What do you stand for? Who do you want to attract? Who do you want to repel?! There are so many reactions to you showing up that you need to be certain you show up the way you want to.
The easy answer to that, of course, is to just be you.
Simply just You.
Be exactly who you want to be and know how you want to show up. I used to worry about things like being seen wearing my glasses (yes, I know it sounds daft), but now I wear them when I want to and I know for certain it doesn't make me any better or worse at doing my Thing. I used to feel I HAD to dress up to see clients, but now I dress up when I want to and the rest of the time I'm pretty much living in skinny jeans... again, I've not noticed it affect me doing my Thing at all.
Now, of course I am not saying let yourself go and slob out all day in sweat pants (unless this is you doing your Thing!), but I am saying wear, act and be who you know you really are.
Just like when you find and do your Thing, it feels like you've finally found the perfect jeans or dress for you, know that it is the same with an actual pair of jeans and dress too. It's all connected. The same with where you want to be doing your work, who you want to hang out with, how you want to do your marketing, the clients you want to work with, how you want to do your work, what you want to charge, how you want people to pay you, what hours work best for you, what tea you want to drink... what biscuits you want to dunk... :)
There are way too many rules and expectations around what you 'should' do and what is 'right' when, actually, it all comes down to what you want and how you want to do it. It is about you, as you are No.1. If you're not happy how can you do your Thing to your best effect? It matters.
And it's pretty easy to check in with yourself if what you're doing is you being you or not.
Here's how it works
Ask yourself : "Does this feel good?"
If it's a "Yes", carry on
If it's a "No", look for an alternative and keep asking the question until you get a "Yes".
The caveat to this is not to stick to all the "Yeses" that are you being comfortable, hiding out somewhere so we can't actually see you—that's NOT what being a star is all about. Instead you need to stand in your spotlight with a message and service that you absolutely, totally know is you doing your Thing and you feel great about. THEN we're cooking with gas and you don't have to worry for a single second if you're 'getting it right' as you'll just know you are.
One less thing to worry about then.
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